SUPPORT OR A BURDEN – RELATIONSHIPS & MARRIAGE

In a relationship or marriage a spouse can be a support or a burden to their spouse. Both spouses can also be supportive to each other or a burden to each other. When supportive to each other life becomes easy and goals become so easy to achieve. The saying that two are better than one becomes true or gets fulfilled. The productivity of both also increases. But when one or both are burdens to each other they become less productive than they were when they were single. Then the saying that “two are better than one” becomes “one is better than two” because something is wrong due to the additional burden instead of additional support.

1.       SUPPORT

A support is mostly under or on same level to effectively offer the required support. If the support wants to uplift the other it can be under or above but in either way it uplifts the other. No matter its position, its position (below or above or by the side) is to uplift or support. Moses in the Bible lifted up his hands for a divine purpose for Israelites to win the war. Moses’ hands were supported or lifted up by others when they were tired. They did not sit on his hands or pull his hands down otherwise Moses would have failed his role. Your partner to be successful in their role in the relationship or marriage they need your support. Encouragement, motivation, help and care are some of the ways of being a support.                                  

2.       BURDEN

A burden is always sitting onto another adding extra weight instead of lightening the weight. The burden’s position (down or above) weighs down due to addition of downward weight. A burden weighs down. A burden (even Pride and laziness, wrong mindset/ attitude, discouragement) weighs down. Many people become burdens in relationships, marriages or communities instead of being supportive or channels of blessings to others. When you become a burden then are making others fail their roles.

 If you really love your spouse or partner, you shall not be a burden to them but a support or a channel of blessings to them. We should have a mindset of ministering to others, supportive to others, encouraging others, guiding others correctly with love and being a channel of blessings to them.

For more information kindly refer to the book titled “A Practical Guide to a Successful Relationship & Marriage”