LOOKING GOOD FOR EACH OTHER

 

In a marriage union, two spouses should know each other more and should also please each other. They should know the likes, what attracts their partner and tag along with that. They should aim to attract each other and not their opposite sex outside the marriage union. They should bring joy and happiness to each other. They should arouse each other and not other people.

Some despite being married they continue deliberately attracting or enticing or tempting others outside the marriage union. They still display themselves as though they are available. They still desire to attract and entice others to themselves. Justice enticing the opposite sex outside their marriage union gives them pleasure.

This is an issue that spouses need to discuss honestly and deeply. They need to talk about how to look good for each other, how to attract and arouse each other, how to dress for each other when together and how to entertain each other. Some partners will dress in ways that put off their partners because they still dress for themselves or for other people instead of dressing for their spouses. They do not mind about not pleasing their partners. During marriage most partners relax and live, dress and do their hair outlooks selfishly and not for each other. Some partners look unattractive in certain attire to their spouses but still look good and attractive in other attires yet they do not pay attention to such important detail.

Spouses should bond and attract each other in the following ways:

(a)    Socially – through social events/ activities, feasts/ parties, games, having meals out together, game drives, swimming, playing & laughing together, dancing together, etc.

(b)    Emotionally

(c)     Physically – look good, smell good, touch good and act good.

Since the topic here is about looking good for each other, we shall focus on this further.

The above diagram is a good guide to feeding the five senses with correct signals and information with a view to attracting each other.

Spouses should take note of how their partners like them to look, the way they like to be treated/ called/ touched and the smells/ aromas they enjoy. Some do not know what words arouse their partners because of lack of curiosity, wrong assumptions, lack of commitment and effective communication.

The following are additional and simple ways of bonding and making each other productive in a relationship and marriage:

(a)    Attract each other

(b)    Love each other

(c)     Trust each other

(d)    Please each other

(e)    Protect each other

(f)      Care for each other

(g)    Support each other

(h)    Inspire each other

        Encourage each other